Being a single mom isn’t too bad after all

So, I only saw the first half of Must Love Kids last night. Anna started screaming, so I decided I’d just catch the last half another day (and from now on I’ll just TiVo it. Should’ve done that in the first place, but only the upstairs TV has that capability, and I just didn’t care enough to walk up there.) From what I saw, I really liked it. One of the moms, Vanessa, had her oldest child when she was close to my age, which really hooked me into the show.

It also got me thinking about a realization that I had not long after Anna was born — one of the most amazing things about being a mom is that age doesn’t matter. 

I started going to a parenting group sponsored by the hospital when Anna was 3 weeks old. I’ve been meeting up with those moms every week since. They’re all married and older than me, but that’s never been an issue. We’re all parents, and we’re all going through some of the same things with our babies. 

Of course, the same holds true among single moms. I’m one of the youngest single mom bloggers (there are some others, but there aren’t many of us), and that fact doesn’t matter when I’m reading other single moms’ blogs. No matter where we are in life, we understand each other and we’re here for support. And in my case, there’s so much to learn from all of you who are older than me and have been through so many more years of this single parenting thing. 

Another thought/feeling also came over me while watching the show. All those moms were so together and confident; they seemed to fully embrace their lives as single moms. For a moment I actually thought, hey, being single into my 30s is not a horrible thing. My 30th birthday is still 8 1/2 years away — which is a lot of time to fall in love and get married — but I finally started to feel a lot more comfortable with my singleness. I even thought about how much better it would be to not find love until I’m in my 30s. I’ll be growing so much emotionally over the next several years while I’m in this “finding myself” stage of life. I need to be where I want to be in life before I start thinking about marriage.

So many happy, confident vibes running through my body. It feels great

P.S. There’s a teenage mom blogger out there somewhere. She was linked in a post on another single mom blog, I think, and I forgot to bookmark her. If you are this single teenage mom and just happen to be reading this, please let me know! I want to read more and I can’t find you :(